Today I am working from my bed. I decided to try Tae Bo after years of not, and my already old knee ain’t havin’ it. I can hear beads hit and scatter all over the kitchen floor. My kids are on a new bracelet-making-kick.
I have heard the back door open and shut around 50 times in the last hour. That is surprisingly an accurate number.
I know they are digging into their Easter candy and eating an unholy amount. The sugar crash should hit in about an hour.
It was just announced that school is cancelled for the remainder of the school year. My kids are thrilled. I am not. Not because I don’t love being with my kids, but because I am expected to work a full time job, keep my kids alive, entertain them or teach them or whatever, clean up, cook, all at the same time. It is a lot. I’m not superwoman. She probably couldn’t even handle all of that.
Which brings me to my next point…..
Something I have noticed on social media more than normal lately: mom shaming.
I have been a stay at home mom, a working mom, a homeschool mom, a send my kids to public school mom, a tired mom, sad mom, happy mom, I HAVE BEEN ALL OF IT.
To the stay at home moms: Stop making comments like “It’s sad to see parents complaining about being home with their kids. I do it everyday.” We get it. We aren’t complaining about being with our kids. We are overwhelmed because we also have bosses with expectations and jobs we have to do along with parenting. So please. Cut the crap. I know staying home is a full time job, I have been there. It is the most overworked, non paying, under appreciated job there is. I 100% respect SAHMs. Have the same respect for working moms. Not everyone has the ability to stay home and not work. You are blessed. Some people do not want to stay home with their kids. They are better parents because they work. That is okay too. So be nice to people who do not have the same life as you.
To the working moms: Stop looking down on the SAHMs. There is no being “better” because we work. We work because we have to, or we want to. They want to stay home. Good for them. They are not paid, and they do not get a break. Especially now in quarantine. Maybe the gym was the “me time”, or even a trip to Walmart with no kids. That is now taken away from them. So be nice. As much women empowerment I see all over the internet, it is sad to see the amount of mom shaming.
Bottom line: Being a mom is hard, guys. There are days where I don’t even get dressed, I cry a lot, and I let my kids snack all day. Then there are days where I workout, make lunch and clean up, do activities, do the laundry like a boss, and snuggle my littles. There are days where I have to discipline, I have to teach them right and wrong and it is hard. There are days I have to take electronics away to show there are consequences for their actions. There are days they are sick and I am up all night with no sleep taking care of them. Being a mom is hard. But we are all here, trying our best. We do what we can because we love them. We love their sticky fingers, dirty faces, and blooming personalities. That is the one thing we all have in common. We love our kids.
So, to all moms: Be nice. Be kind. Also, I salute you all. Keep being a great mom. They notice, even if you don’t always get a thank you. 🙂